Child Abuse II

Imagine for one moment that you are not yourself any longer.
Visualize instead that you are a young girl; old enough to know right
from wrong yet still young enough to be terrified by the dark shadows
in your room. It is a cool autumn night and your parents have opted
to attend a party which you are not allowed at. It will be fine,?
they say. Although you already know what is to come. Your uncle comes
over to watch you for the evening, and your parents are so pleased by
the fact that they do not have to find a sitter. As soon as he
arrives, your mother kisses you on the cheek and scurries out the door
to join your father already waiting in the car outside. The nightmare
begins. His slimy hands casually slide an ebony cartridge into the
VCR as he smiles at you seductively. You can feel his eyes worming
their gaze through your clothes every time that he looks at you. You
feel dirty and violated every time you think about what he does to you
when you are alone. He walks over to the couch and sits down next to
you. His hand slithers it way onto your knee and you cringe in
revulsion. Dont be afraid, I wont hurt you,?he chides. Your mind
feels panicky as you feel his touch in more intimate places and you
scream involuntarily. His grip tightens as he places his hand over
your mouth. Well have to do this the hard way!?comes his intense
whisper. You flail your arms at him, but it doesnt help. His
writhing massive body is on top of yours, and you feel so powerless.
Eventually, you sink into a sobbing heap and simply wait for his
passions to stop. You wait for the nightmare to end. When he is
done, you limp to the laundry room and try fruitlessly to get the
blood stains out of your clothes. It is all your fault…
Abuse: The violation or defilement of;
What you have just experienced is one type of abuse that
occurs millions of times every year across America. Estimates of
abuse range wildly depending on the source of ones information. From
one to two million children per year are victims of child abuse.
(Dolan p.3) All sources agree on the simple truth that not nearly all
cases of child abuse are reported or even estimated. Man cases go
unreported, less than 50% by current estimates. (Dolan p.3) The
amount of child abuse is staggering to think about, let alone deal
with. By the age of eighteen one in three girls will have been
sexually molested and one in six boys will have been molested in that
same time frame. (WWW site). Although, throughout this paper we shall
discuss not only the effects of sexual abuse but abuse in all its
forms. These include Physical Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Mental Abuse and
Neglect. We will also Touch upon the basic question of this report,
and that is, How has child abuse changed over the last 100 years and
what effects has this had on the family??This brings us to our first
research area, change.

It is clear that families are undergoing a number of important
structural changes: families are smaller than in the past, with fewer
children and sometimes with only one parent; parents have children at
a later age; more couples live together without the bonds of matrimony
which was accepted as a sacred bond so few years in human history.
The source of this degradation of such a basic unit of society is
unknown throughout all areas of research which I canvassed in my
quest. It is a question that one person needs to answer for himself
and solve for himself. Something a young child is not capable of
doing.

Physical abuse has many forms. It may involve the hitting or
kicking of a child with the fists or the feet, or with another object;
such as belts, shovels, changes, ropes, electric cords, leather
straps, canes, baseball bats, sticks, broom handles, or assorted large
objects. Other forms of abuse include the pouring of scalding water
or coffee on a childs body, holding a childs head under the water of
a toilet bowl, stuffed into running washing machines, throwing a child
against a wall, shaking a child with extreme force or placing parts of
a childs anatomy on hot or burning objects to cause pain. (Authors
note: Sometimes in extreme cases the shaking of a child with such
extreme force as an aggressive abuser possesses can cause severe brain
damage as the brain is crushed from repeated impact against the skull.
This type of injury is especially damaging in babies and small
children.) Some experts say the For every reported case of physical
abuse over 100 are not reported. (Dolan p.7) Nobody knows precisely
how many children die each year from physical abuse at the hands of
adults. The National committee for the Prevention of child Abuse in
its annual survey of all 50 states estimates the 1,125 children died
from abuse in 1988, a figure that, according to the Committees report
most likely represents the lowest estimate of the problem.? What is
known is that reports of child fatalities resulting from abuse are
steadily increasing… (Neal p.1) Many times when physical abuse is
caused by a parent or guardian, the child is not taken for medical
help, even when wounds or injuries are very severe. When they are
taken into the hospital it is usually be a secondary member of the
family, one who may not have caused the abuse but did not stop it
either. This type of person might be called a facilitator. In the
past, there was much more discipline in homes and schools then there
is today. In one interview, I had the following response to the
question, What do you consider to be abuse; as compared to punishment
and discipline? Beating with a stick the size of a telegraph pole.
Or forcing a kid to eat liver. That is what the government sees. I
see it as abuse if the child isn’t learning from it. Kids way back
when were slapped on the wrist with rulers. They didn’t go out and
kill each other as many of the kids do today.? (Towle E-mail) Many
people which I interview displayed one of two attitudes:
?No hitting or abuse was acceptable to them today
?More discipline is needed today than before
Many experts think that terrible pressures on todays family
are partly to blame for the excess of abuse in todays families.
(Dolan p.9) Physical abuse is termed sexual abuse when it involves
the display or touching of genitalia or anything which is not a
comfortable part of a normal person to person contact. This brings us
to our next form of Child abuse, that of Sexual or exploitive abuse.

Sexual abuse is described as those activities by an older
person for his or her sexual gratification without consideration for
the childs psycho-social sexual development. Also, as contacts or
interactions between a child and an individual of higher power when
the child is being used for the sexual stimulation of that adult or
another. (Ruth p.4) There are many categories of sexual abuse, these
include; incest, pedophilia, exhibitionism, molestation, sex
(statutory rape), sexual sadism, and child pornography. It is
estimated that approximately three hundred thousand children are
involved in child prostitution and pornography. (Kempe p.9) Many
times men or woman who abuse children were abused when they were
young. In this way, abuse is very much a self fulfilling prophecy, or
circle problem. Historically, sexual abuse was not as much of a
problem as it is in modern times. Incidences of sexual abuse are
highest in urbanized technologically advanced societies. We hold this
to be self evident because the basic need of the sexual drive is
denied a constructive (at least, less destructive) outlet in modern
society. In other cultures and times, prostitution was a valid form
of employment, and this niche provided an integral outlet for
connoisseurs of sex. (I.e. nymphomaniacs, and satirists). Without
this vent men with sexual frustration may turn to the less reactive
child as sexual prey. Due to the black market prostitution of
children, a twelve year old boy can earn upwards of a thousand dollars
per day selling himself on the streets of Los Angeles. Sexual abuse
can have severe consequences on the mental development of a children.
(Mental? Did someone mention mental?)
Mental Abuse of a child can involve several different
activities. These can involved the common verbal forms, i.e. yelling,
neglect, constant insults, etc.They also involve certain forms of
mental torture and neglect. Mental abuse is one of the most damaging
forms of abuse, because unlike rape or other forms of sexual or
physical abuse, mental abuse will be with you all of your life. I
would offer this analogy to shed light what I am trying to communicate
here. Physical and sexual abuse are like roadblocks in the road of
life. They are there for a while, but you get over them eventually.
Mental abuse, on the other hand, catalyzes the disillusion of the view
of the street. If someone is always insulting you, always telling you
that you are no good: then with time, your mind becomes accustomed to
it, and begins to believe it. This especially is a damaging
consequence for young children and infants, who are as dependent upon
mental support as they are for their physiological needs. It is an
utter violation of such a relationship. Mental abuse not only affects
the child, and the family, but society as a whole. In one of my
interviews I received the following response to the question; What do
you feel is the greatest misconception about abuse in today’s society?
We still dont understand how much real damage it does, not only to
the child but to society as a whole. Most people never fully recover
from child abuse. Our society has never recovered from child
abuse…?(Kimball E-mail) This brings us to our final area of
discussion on the subject of child abuse, that of neglect.

Neglect is the most prevalent form of child maltreatment. The
statistics are staggering. A recent Study prepared by the American
Humane Association states that, nationwide, neglect consistently has
accounted for the greatest number of maltreatment reports; in 1988
alone it represented sixty three percent of the approximately two
million cases of reported incidents of the three predominant forms of
child maltreatment: physical abuse, sexual abuse and neglect.?
(Steinbach p.8) Neglect is the unlawful withholding of a childs
basic needs. Food, Water, Shelter, Clothing; these are all things
that a child needs to live an effective life in todays society. To
deny a child these things is to leave him lower on the ladder of needs
than he or she would conceivably be otherwise. Neglect is by far more
prominent than any other forms of child maltreatment, but, continually
it is the least prominent villain in child abuse advertising schemes.
Why are people so unwilling to admit this problem? Why do Americans
consistently look overseas and across borders when sending their
charitable donations? The problem is here! It is not imagined.
Unlike the demons who lurk in the darkness of childrens closets, this
villain will not vanish at the flip of a light switch. Many of these
children do not have their own closets or lights…

In conclusion, we have gone over the most important points and
facts about the different types of child abuse and what their affects
are on children. We have tried to shed some light on this unspoken
about, and shunned subject. The answer to the question which was
posed at the beginning of this paper is vague a best and unanswerable
at worst. Child abuse has always been around, and it always will be
around as long as other people care more about themselves, than about
others. The golden rule is the ultimate answer, the most dignified
quest. The last hundred years have only brought about changes in the
discussion, description, and definition of child abuse. These things
have helped do away with child abuse significantly, but the
eradication of this most cursed of diseases is not in the sight of
those who look to the future. I leave you with this final quote,
spoken by a one Mr. Andrew Vachss.
The effect that child abuse has not just on the victims, but on their
subsequent victims and on society as a whole, is, in my judgment, far
more devastating than the threat of drugs, of political upheaval, of
economic disaster, or of environmental destruction… I really think
that child abuse is the most significant threat not just to the
quality of life in this country, but to life in this country.?